The most typical relationship issues never rear their ugly heads at the start of a relationship – it’s when the familiarity has settled in that certain problems slowly bubble to the surface.
Have you ever watched any of those reality shows where the people eventually get over the initial pleasantries and start to get on each other’s nerves?
That’s kind of how relationships are – once the honeymoon period runs its course, things will gradually change right under your nose. In time, you’ll realize that your marriage isn’t what it used to be.
But take heart because this is a natural part of human nature, not to mention the dynamics of marital relationships for that matter. Like it or not, conflict comes with the territory.
To start learning about marriage problems and coming up with their corresponding solutions, let’s take a look at some of the most frequent issues that haunt a lot of couples.
For example, it’s very easy to let your other duties and obligations get in the way of each other. Being responsible in the other aspects of your married life can cause a couple to slowly lose their sense of intimacy.
Between your respective careers, taking care of the children and extracurricular activities, it can be hard to find time for each other.
And this is a bigger threat than it seems. Taking the marriage and one another for granted will trigger a domino effect in the greater scheme of things.
Pretty soon, everything else about the relationship will start to crumble – ignoring these red flags long enough will catch up to you in the form of an affair or an eventual divorce.
So no matter how crazy your schedule can get, do your best to squeeze in some much-needed couple time at every available opportunity.
Sharing half an hour every day to do something together may not seem like a big deal, but believe me, these moments add up in the general framework of your relationship.
Unspoken thoughts are also another frequent problem which can undermine a marriage. Never think that it’s better to hold your tongue and just let things slide without putting in your two cents.
Of course, expressing your feelings needs to be done in a civilized manner without turning it into an attack against the other person. Usually it boils down to good timing, such as casually bringing up an issue during a moment where neither of you are agitated.
Remember, just because you feel bad and/or believe that you are right doesn’t give you a license to just blurt out whatever you want. Rather, you need to “present your case” in the most constructive way by focusing on your feelings (as opposed to pointing any fingers).
Although all couples need to face marriage problems and come up with solutions, these are character-building experiences that will strengthen a relationship.
We shouldn’t forget that life in general is meant to be difficult. The sooner a couple can accept that basic truth, the more aware they become of the marital pitfalls (and how to avoid them).