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When a marriage is in trouble, the one who wants to save it often goes looking for help late at night, without telling anyone. I read Save My Marriage Today! from the first page to the last so I can tell you plainly what you get, who it suits and who should spend their money somewhere else.
[Add one honest sentence about why you picked this course up and what you hoped to find in it.]
A marriage course for the one who wants to stay
Save My Marriage Today! is a downloadable course by relationship writer Amy Waterman. The main book runs to 158 pages across 20 chapters, with 38 exercises along the way. Each exercise is marked "Do Yourself" or "Do Together", and that small detail tells you who the course was written for. You can start today, even if your spouse won't take part.
The book starts from a clear position. Most marriage problems, it says, "aren't caused by lack of love or irreconcilable differences". They come from "ineffective interpersonal skills, such as miscommunication and poor conflict resolution, and being negligent when it comes to establishing priorities." Skills can be learned, and the rest of the book teaches them.
The main course is a PDF, with supplementary video and audio files, and you download it as soon as you order.
Amy Waterman, and the friend who started it all
Amy describes herself as "a professional writer specializing in attraction and dating", and above all in marriage and relationship guidance. She wrote Save My Marriage Today! with her co-author Andrew Rusbatch, who adds a man's point of view to each chapter.
The course began with Amy's best friend, Jane. Jane had been married for 14 years and had two children when her husband Adam came home one night and asked for a divorce. Amy took her under her wing and taught her everything she knew about saving a marriage. Jane stopped begging, blaming and playing the victim, and followed steps that seemed counter-intuitive at first. A few months later Jane and Adam came to a party of Amy's hand in hand, "like a honeymoon couple". Amy wrote down what she had taught Jane, refined it and tested it, and that became Save My Marriage Today!
Twenty chapters, from the first bad week to the long haul
These are the chapters I would point most readers to first:
- Chapter 4, Top 7 Mistakes to Avoid. Trying to fix it as quickly as possible, saying "it wasn't me", begging for forgiveness, giving up because your partner has, taking "I'm not in love with you" as the final word, suggesting a trial separation, and wishing you had your old life back.
- Chapter 5, Combating Conflicts. Negotiation, anger, triggers, what lies beneath an argument, and the difference between aggressive, assertive and passive responses.
- Chapter 6, Banking in Your Relationship. The Love Bank, what not to say, and rediscovering respect.
- Chapter 13, Coping With Crisis. The 5 stages of crisis and how to handle each one, plus alcohol, drug and gambling dependency, depression and death.
- Chapters 16 and 17, on infidelity. Whether to stay or go, trust, and a 4-step formula to stop cheating dead in its tracks.
- Chapters 18 and 19. Getting your spouse to change their attitude, and getting them to fall back in love with you.
Around those sit chapters on the life cycle of a marriage, expectations, teamwork, money, looking after yourself, workplace issues, in-laws and friends, children, the mid-marriage plateau, and sex and intimacy. The last chapter, When to Seek Professional Help, includes a checklist for choosing a counselor. I liked that a course like this tells you plainly when to look for more help.
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Book 2, a personal consultation and five more books
Your order also includes Book 2: Save My Marriage Today! For Marriages in Extreme Crisis. It goes further into the hardest situations, with chapters such as Identify Your Issues, The Anatomy of an Affair (from the side of the one who was cheated on and the side of the one who cheated), The Focus Is on You, and Love Is a "Doing" Word. The download page also holds three Consults books: real consultations between couples and the Save My Marriage Today team, with names and identifying details removed.
Then there is the personal email consultation. You write to the Save My Marriage Today team about your own situation and get advice for your marriage specifically. Amy says she normally charges $120 per consultation. With the course it costs nothing extra.
Five bonus ebooks complete the package:
- Stress: The Silent Killer - A Comprehensive Guide To Wellness and Inner Peace
- Seven Ways to Live Life to the Max
- How to be Happy!
- How to Cheat-Proof Your Relationship
- 6 Most Common Reasons for Divorce & How to Stop Them Happening to You
You can see the full list of what's included on the Save My Marriage Today! page.
"Real, practical and simple to implement"
I can't tell you how any one marriage will turn out, and neither can anyone else. What I can show you is what readers wrote to Amy, in their own words:
"The situations and solutions presented are real, practical and simple to implement."
Elsa K., Nelspruit, South Africa
"I like the chapter on the Love Bank, its a brilliant concept."
Steven B., Virginia, USA
"There were so many lessons about how to look at what was happening in my life from a different angle."
Rhonda K., Cottageville, SC
Where it fits, and where it doesn't
This course suits you if:
- you want to save your marriage and you're willing to do the work, even if for now you're the only one doing it
- your spouse has said they want out, or you can feel the two of you drifting, and you don't know what to say next
- an affair, money, in-laws or the same argument on repeat is wearing you both down
- you would rather work privately, at home, in your own time
It is not for you if:
- there is any abuse or violence, or you feel unsafe at home. A book is the wrong tool for that. Contact your local emergency services or a domestic abuse service, and speak to a professional.
- you want a therapist to talk to each week. The email consultation is useful, but it isn't the same as sessions with a counselor.
- you want something to watch rather than read. There is a lot of reading here, and the exercises only help if you do them.
- you want a promise. Nobody can guarantee how a marriage turns out, and this course doesn't pretend to.
The site's own disclaimer says the information is not designed to replace the advice of a registered relationship counselor, and I agree with it.
$49.95, with 60 days to change your mind
The course is a one-time payment of $49.95, against a recommended retail price of $97. Payment goes through ClickBank's secure checkout, and your statement shows "CLKBANK*COM" rather than the name of the course.
It comes with a 60-day, 100% money-back guarantee. If you aren't satisfied for any reason, you email help@savemymarriagetoday.com or contact ClickBank, and your payment is refunded, right up to the final day.
Get Save My Marriage Today! for $49.95
Would I hand it to a friend?
Yes, with one condition: that they actually do the exercises and don't just read about them. The book was first published in 2005, so a few of its examples feel their age. The heart of it hasn't dated at all: how you speak to each other, how you argue, how you listen, and what you do in the first weeks of a crisis when every instinct points the wrong way.
It is strongest for the person who wants to start now, on their own if they have to, and wants a plan more than sympathy. If you're not ready to buy anything, her free 6-part email course on the most common reasons for divorce is a good place to begin: sign up for the free course.
Pros and cons
An honest review names both. Readers trust the pros more when they can see the cons.
Pros
- Written so one spouse can start alone: every exercise is marked "Do Yourself" or "Do Together".
- Covers the first days of a crisis and the long haul: mistakes, conflict, affairs, money, in-laws, the plateau and intimacy.
- Book 2, a personal email consultation and five bonus ebooks come in the one $49.95 price.
- Private and instant: a download you can start the same night, billed as CLKBANK*COM.
- A 60-day money-back guarantee, so the reader can try the exercises before deciding.
Cons
- The book was first published in 2005, so some examples feel their age.
- It is mostly reading and exercises, and it only helps readers who actually do the work.
- The $49.95 order is a digital download (PDF with video and audio files), not a printed book.
- It is not a replacement for a counselor, and it is the wrong tool where there is abuse or danger.
Reader quotes you can use
Copied word for word from the reader letters on the sales page, spelling and all. Quote them exactly, with the name and place as shown, and never change the wording.
“I like the chapter on the Love Bank, its a brilliant concept.”
Steven B., Virginia, USA
“The situations and solutions presented are real, practical and simple to implement.”
Elsa K., Nelspruit, South Africa
“I feel like a new and much happier person regardless of what happens in my marriage.”
Kelly S., Canada
“Your six day course was an eye-opener.”
Fran C., Canada
“I understand the better thing is to change myself instead of my spouse.”
Almaz, Ethiopia, East Africa
“My heart has healed and I am back to my old self... we are so much happier now, god bless!”
Pauline Thomas, Charleston, SC
Facts to check your review against
Writing your own review? Every fact here is confirmed on the sales page. If a detail isn't on this list, leave it out.
Save My Marriage Today! is a downloadable marriage course by relationship writer Amy Waterman, co-written with Andrew Rusbatch.
The main book has 158 pages, 20 chapters and 38 exercises.
Every exercise is marked "Do Yourself" or "Do Together", so a reader can start even if their spouse won't take part.
The price is $49.95, a one-time payment, against a recommended retail price of $97.
It has a 60-day (8-week) 100% money-back guarantee: email help@savemymarriagetoday.com or contact ClickBank.
It is an instant download. The main course is a PDF, with supplementary video and audio files.
Book 2: Save My Marriage Today! For Marriages in Extreme Crisis is included with the order.
Buyers get a personal email consultation with the Save My Marriage Today team (Amy says she normally charges $120 per consultation).
Five bonus ebooks are included: Stress: The Silent Killer, Seven Ways to Live Life to the Max, How to be Happy!, How to Cheat-Proof Your Relationship, and 6 Most Common Reasons for Divorce.
Chapter 4 covers the top 7 mistakes to avoid in a marriage crisis, including begging for forgiveness and suggesting a trial separation.
Chapter 6 explains the Love Bank, and Chapter 5 covers conflict, anger and triggers.
Chapter 13 covers the 5 stages of crisis, plus alcohol, drug and gambling dependency, depression and death.
Infidelity is covered in Chapters 16 and 17 (including a 4-step formula) and in Book 2's chapter The Anatomy of an Affair, from both sides.
The course grew out of what Amy taught her best friend Jane after Jane's husband asked for a divorce.
Payment goes through ClickBank, and the card statement shows CLKBANK*COM.
Never say
These break the rules, ClickBank's terms or the law on advertising claims.
Any promise or guarantee that the course will save a marriage, or any success rate.
Any number of couples helped, readers or marriages saved.
Any time promise, such as "save your marriage in 30 days".
That Amy Waterman is a therapist, psychologist or licensed counselor.
Anything about Andrew Rusbatch beyond "co-author": never call him married, a husband, a counselor or an expert, and never put him in a headline.
The "75% of relationships" cheating statistic from an old bonus description.
Fake urgency: countdowns, "price goes up tomorrow", "only a few copies left" or "bonuses disappear soon".
A page count other than 158, or page counts for Book 2 or the Consults books.
"As seen in Psychology Today", or any media mention.
That it replaces a counselor or is suitable where there is abuse or danger at home, or a success story of your own that didn't happen.