Part of being so closely connected to someone through the bonds of marriage means that the thoughts, feelings, and dreams of each spouse literally start to become intertwined. It is inevitable that our own self-views will become affected by how our partners see us, and thus it is possible for our partners to either boost […]

When we get married, we make a lot of promises to our beloved - to ‘love and to cherish, in sickness and in heath, for as long as you both shall live’. But what promises do we make to ourselves when we get married? When we go through patches where the day-to-day grind becomes a […]

I want you to think of your marriage as being like the human body. Sometimes we feel healthy and at our peak, sometimes we feel worn down and tired, sometimes we get hurt, and sometimes we get sick. Sometimes we die. But every day we are doing our best to keep ourselves alive and healthy, […]

This article follows on from the previous blog post: What to do when your spouse has an affair. **Please note: this article is intended for couples who wish to rebuild their marriage after an affair has ended. If your spouse is still having an affair, or you are wishing to separate, this article is not […]

If you have just found out your spouse has had an affair, it will feel like the bottom is dropping out of your world right now. You can't sleep... you feel sick... and you want to get your old life back. Everything is overwhelming and you have no idea how you’re supposed to react. But […]

Have a think about all of the people who YOU are responsible for caring for. Your children, your spouse, yourself - not to mention other close family members and friends in your life. Wow. It gets a little overwhelming right? Juggling all of your different roles in life can be extremely hard. Especially within the […]

Every morning you are waking up to the same dull feeling. You and your spouse move like robots through the same old morning routine: shower, get dressed, breakfast, goodbye, out the door. You barely even register their lips on yours as you are already thinking about everything you need to get done that day. Later, […]

Does it feel like all your interactions with your spouse have involved blame and criticism? This is a pattern that many couples can fall in to during their marriage. At these times it can be easy to start doubting your spouse and feel like you are drifting apart. Emotions of anger, frustration and guilt overshadow […]

Denial can be dangerous in your relationship. If some part of you knows that you need to address certain issues in your marriage, don’t convince yourself that things will get better on their own without having to do anything. You aren’t doing any favors for yourself or your spouse by taking an “out of sight, […]

As a child or teenager, did you ever picture what your marriage would be like? Did you envision running into your ideal mate at a party, then falling madly in love, like they do in the movies? Did you imagine you and your partner wallowing in a blissful dream? Did you have visions of walking […]