I’m continually astounded at the lengths couples go to in their quest to hurt each other. Most of the people who are looking through this blog are thankfully committed on some level to changing their patterns of behavior, but in thinking about the number of people who contact me in times of crisis, it leads me […]

When it comes to making a marriage work, we often make the assumption that it takes two.  Marriage counseling is usually most effective when both partners attend.  If one partner is resistant to change and believes that there’s nothing wrong with how things are, healing the marriage will be a greater challenge. That is why […]

When you first get married, it’s IMPOSSIBLE to think that something as mundane as housework could ever destroy the love between you and your beloved, right? But unfortunately, the sad reality is that the way couples manage household tasks has a MASSIVE impact on their marriage satisfaction and their overall wellbeing. In fact, sharing household […]

You live with your spouse. You see them every day. But why does it feel like lately they have been a million miles away? How is it possible that this person you know so well has started feeling like a stranger? And most importantly, how can you get them to come back to you? There […]

Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say to your spouse – I’m sure you all agree! By saying this, you’re admitting that you’ve messed up and have hurt one of the people you love the most. It’s never easy. But the thing is, we’re all human and we ALL make mistakes. And unfortunately, sometimes […]

Today we are going into a tough topic that does require you to look DEEPLY within yourself, and possibly identify some areas of self-improvement. However, I hope that you find it rewarding and eye-opening… And hopefully it can provide a basis for change in your marriage. Because remember, you ALWAYS have power to bring about […]

Do you and your spouse find yourselves constantly fighting about everything when it comes to your children? Can you never seem to agree on things like discipline, bedtimes, and who can take the kids to sports practice? If so, you’re not alone. Parenting is challenging, especially when spouses have experienced completely different upbringings. But letting […]

Marriage counseling (or therapy) is never an experience couples are likely to feel excited about. Dealing with problems between yourself and someone you love is never easy, and for some the thought of going to counseling sessions with their spouse is terrifying. But often what we are really afraid of is the unknown. Marriage therapy […]

In our marriage consultations, we are often asked for advice on what spouses should do when they feel that there is no ‘passion’, ‘chemistry’, or ‘spark’ left in their marriage. At this point, couples are usually reporting a large decline in their sex life, a lack of physical affection, and general feelings of not being […]

Today’s exercise is about learning how to control your reactions to your spouse – a step which is absolutely VITAL in your efforts to save your marriage. The fact is that you can’t control your spouse’s behavior. But you can control your REACTIONS to your spouse’s behavior. And if these reactions change for the better, […]