Dealing With Addiction In A Marriage | SaveMyMarriageToday.com
Andrew Rusbatch
Amy Waterman

Gambling, alcohol, drugs or the internet: if your partner’s addiction is taking over your marriage, read this before you plead or threaten one more time.

Is Your Partner’s Addiction Threatening To Tear Your Marriage Apart?

Feeling as if your partner loves their addiction more than you? Wondering how to get them help when they don’t want to change? Here is how to get your partner and your marriage through it.

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From: The Save My Marriage Today team

Dear Friend,

An addiction can take over a person’s life until they sacrifice everything for it, their marriage included.

Your partner needs help, and you have to be careful how you go about it. Demand treatment from someone who can’t yet admit they have a problem, and you may push them further away.

If your money is draining away because your partner can’t stop gambling or drinking, if you go to bed alone while your partner sits glued to the computer, or if you watch your children suffer as the parent they love puts the addiction first, this course was made for you.

The Save My Marriage Today! Premium Home Study Course gives you targeted advice on gambling, substance abuse and internet addiction, and on the signs of addiction in general. It helps you cope with your partner’s addiction and shows you exactly what you should and should not do to help them overcome it and get your marriage back on track, so you can get back the spouse you remember.

A Program Built For The Partners Of Addicts

How to Change Your Partner from Addiction focuses on the people who are emotionally involved with someone showing signs of addiction: the often forgotten casualties of addiction in a relationship. It arms you with answers to the most common problems partners of addicts face, in a way that is clear and inspiring to learn and put into practice.

How To Change Your Partner From Addiction, Even When They Don’t Want To

How To Change Your Partner From Addiction, Even When They Don’t Want To

3 half-hour lessons · 1.5 hours · study guide

Gambling, alcohol, drugs or the internet: the panel defines addiction and answers the problems specific to the marriages it touches. That covers recognizing an addiction your partner may have lived with for years, treatment and the hard days of withdrawal, and making sure your own emotional needs are met along the way.

  1. IDefining & Recognizing Addiction
  2. IIEveryday Issues of Addiction
  3. IIITreating & Overcoming Addiction

  • Defining addiction. The key signs of whether your partner has an addiction or not.

  • Self-soothing. Why your partner is tied to their addiction, and why it makes them feel good.

  • Common issues for all addictions that you need to understand to help your partner through.

  • Testing your commitment. What you have to face in your fight to help your partner overcome it.

  • Keys to transformation. Where the turning point is, and how to get there.

  • Detoxification. The different forms, and which suits your situation.

  • Core therapies for overcoming addiction, and what each can offer you and your partner.

  • Relapse prevention, so the addiction doesn’t return.

  • Tips for partners. How to support your partner and still meet your own needs.

Yes! I want to help my partner and our marriage through this addiction.

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Why Begging And Ultimatums Don’t Break An Addiction

You are past the stage where you need to be told that addiction is bad and you should do something about it. You already know.

What most people don’t realize is that overcoming a serious addiction takes a structured, methodical approach. Begging your partner to quit and issuing hollow ultimatums won’t build a relationship free of addiction that stands the test of time. There is a big difference between a bad habit and a serious addiction, and unless you use techniques designed for serious addiction, much of your effort will be wasted.

You need a course that addresses your challenges as the partner of someone troubled by addiction, and gives you hope, real ideas and techniques you can use to help your partner. This program is for you if you:

  • are in a relationship that is far from satisfying
  • aren’t sure where a habit ends and an addiction begins
  • aren’t sure whether your partner’s behavior is a serious addiction
  • have left the relationship, or are on a trial separation, because of an addiction
  • are worried about the time or money your partner spends on their addiction
  • have hit a brick wall trying to talk to your partner about their behavior
  • are in an unhealthy relationship and want to know whether to stay, or how to make it better

The Questions Partners Of Addicts Ask, Answered On Video

You get a powerful introduction to what an addiction is and how to tell whether your partner has one, so you are no longer stuck wondering what is wrong and what to do about it. Then you listen in as the panel takes on the questions you have been asking yourself: how do you bring up the word addiction with your partner? What causes an addiction? Is it your fault, and could you have done more? How can it be that they love their addiction more than you? Is your relationship strong enough to fight it, and how do you get back the relationship you had before the addiction?

  • Don’t know the first thing about treatment? The different treatments for addiction, and which one is best for your situation.

  • Stuck in the same old rut? What keeps your partner in their addiction, and how to start real, long-lasting change.

  • Feel responsible for your partner’s addiction? Why that isn’t the case, and the real root causes of addiction.

  • Does your partner run away whenever you raise it? How to introduce the subject without censoring everything you say.

  • Always the one giving too much? How to make sure your own needs are met, so the addiction doesn’t take over completely.

  • Is the addiction only the beginning of your problems? The other changes your marriage needs to break the negative patterns.

  • Tired of family and friends asking what’s going on? A fresh view of how they can help you through this.

  • Struggling to understand what you are both going through? What your relationship is going through, and how to take something positive from it.

  • Want to understand what goes on inside an addict’s mind? What drives your partner’s addiction, and why it feels calming to them.

  • What comes after? The resources and support for people who are out the other side, to cut the chance of a relapse.

  • Want specific tips? How to support your partner without supporting the addiction.

You Won’t Have To Become Your Partner’s Counselor

The program was made for the real problems that real partners of addicts face, and none of its methods ask you to:

  • become your partner’s personal counselor
  • spend money you don’t have on addiction treatment that doesn’t work
  • pretend there is no addiction in your marriage
  • encourage or support the addiction
  • play tricks on your partner to “cure” them

What it does ask is commitment. Go through the course with an open mind, and practice the techniques before you judge them. The alternative is to carry on as you are and watch the same mistakes happen over and over again.

If your partner is unwilling to seek or accept help, the approach you have been taking may be part of the reason. Make the commitment to try something new, and you’ll learn the keys that motivate a partner to seek help and change their life.

You can keep going the way you’re going and keep getting the same results, or you can try something new and give yourself the chance to bring back the fulfilling relationship you once had.

What Mark Wrote After Watching The Course

“I can see glimpses of the woman I fell in love with.”

Her moods were terrible and she seemed withdrawn from me and the family. After a few months of agony she moved out… I didn’t know what to do, and I thought it was all my fault. Then I downloaded your course and watched you, Amy and Richard, it all started to make sense.

After making contact with my wife again and talking with her, we established that she had an alcohol and pain-killer addiction. We both decided to enter her into a course of treatment, and even though it is early days, I can see glimpses of the woman I fell in love with.

Mark and Christine T.Premium Home Study Course member

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The Premium Course Covers Far More Than Addiction

An addiction is often only the beginning of a marriage’s problems, so with this program you get the whole Premium Home Study Course: the 12-part course, the programs on infidelity, money and depression, and two audio interviews.

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Save My Marriage Today! Premium 12-Part Course

12 video lessons · about 2 hours · study guide

Answers to the urgent questions you need answered to understand and save your marriage, in twelve video lessons. Amy Waterman, clinical psychologist Richard Wheeler and the Save My Marriage Today team talk through your partner, your expectations and the part you play in your marriage, and how to rescue it from the cycle of negative behavior that is tearing you apart.

  1. IIntroduction
  2. IIThe Life Cycle of a Real Relationship
  3. IIIExamining Our Expectations
  4. IVExamining Beliefs
  5. VMasculine and Feminine
  6. VIGender Roles
  7. VIIA Place for Each Other
  8. VIIIMarriage in Crisis
  9. IXAnger
  10. XManaging Anger
  11. XIThe Big Picture
  12. XIICrossroads
What the lessons cover

  • Identifying your issues. Do you know exactly why your marriage is in crisis? Techniques that get you to the real issues quickly.

  • Your expectations of marriage. Not what you thought it would be? What you must know, and how to clear away the misconceptions that are plaguing your marriage.

  • Your beliefs. How your beliefs and learned behaviors affect your partner and your marriage, and why they may be less accurate than you think.

  • A place for each other. Do you feel smothered, or wish you had more time together? How to balance both your needs in the relationship.

  • Managing anger. Strategies for processing and controlling anger as a couple, and new ways to handle stress and express it positively.

  • Falling out of love. What to do when your partner tells you it’s over, and why they feel that way.

  • Transformation. Breaking the bad habits of the past and moving forward, so your relationship turns around in the shortest time.

How To Save Your Marriage When Your Partner Has Cheated On You

How To Save Your Marriage When Your Partner Has Cheated On You

3 half-hour lessons · 1.5 hours · study guide

When a partner has strayed, deciding to face it and talk about it can be one of the hardest conversations a marriage ever has. Clinical psychologist Richard Wheeler leads this panel discussion with Amy Waterman and the Save My Marriage Today team on the issues a couple must face if they are committed to saving the marriage.

  1. IUnderstanding Why the Affair Occurred, and Whether You Want to Stay Together
  2. IITen Steps to Save Your Relationship
  3. IIIWhat To Do Next
What the lessons cover

  • Growing apart. A simple way to change direction so you grow together in life and love.

  • What ending a marriage really costs. The immediate and future impact of a divorce, in real terms.

  • Time-out. How to use time apart positively and effectively, so it protects your marriage.

  • Ten steps to save your marriage. Stop the decline and start making improvements immediately.

  • Leaving your past behind, so you can enjoy your marriage as it is right now.

  • Rediscovering your relationship. Getting back to basics and getting to know your spouse all over again.

  • New tools for communication that break the habits of the past and help you reconnect with love.

How To Save Your Marriage From Money Problems

How To Save Your Marriage From Money Problems

3 half-hour lessons · 1.5 hours · study guide

Money is one of the biggest issues in modern marriages, and the fight is about much more than the money itself. The panel digs into the real issues behind money problems and the structured approach that helps you and your partner overcome them.

  1. IIdentifying Your Financial Personality
  2. IIRealizing Dreams and Ambitions
  3. IIIOne-Income Families
What the lessons cover

  • Attitudes to money. Is your attitude to money stifling your partner? Simple ways to bring communication and love into money talks and decisions.

  • Being present. Ever been told you don’t listen, or you’re not really “there”? How to give to the relationship in more ways than money.

  • Communication. Why money needs a rethink in the way you talk, and the most common mistakes to avoid.

  • Balancing goals. How to reach what you want now and in the future, and manage both at once.

  • Support systems. The options and support available to couples in difficulty.

  • One-income families. The damaging mistakes so many couples make, and how to avoid power struggles at home.

  • Couplehood. Looking past the cash flow at the way the two of you work together.

How To Save Your Marriage When Your Partner Has Depression

How To Save Your Marriage When Your Partner Has Depression

3 half-hour lessons · 1.5 hours · study guide

The panel looks at how to understand and help a partner who is suffering from depression: recognizing it, seeking treatment, and building a relationship where the two of you can talk about depression and face it as a couple.

  1. IDefining and Identifying Depression
  2. IIOvercoming Depression: A Range of Treatments
  3. IIIDepression and You: Sex and Relationships
What the lessons cover

  • What to look for. How do you know if your partner is depressed? Key signs that tell you whether it is depression or not.

  • Understanding depression. What depression really means, with the common myths cleared away.

  • Key strategies for talking about depression and helping your partner overcome it.

  • Negotiating treatment. What treatments exist, and how to make an informed choice about what suits your partner best.

  • Transformation. Your partner’s turning point, and how to motivate them to reach it.

  • Pointers for partners. Feel you are doing all the giving? How to stay strong and be the best support you can be.

  • Being a positive role model. Leading your partner with your actions, which can have a real effect on overcoming depression.

Plus Scot And Emily McKay, And Mimi Tanner, In Two Audio Interviews

Scot and Emily McKay

“Living with a Partner with a Mental Illness”

Audio interview · 45 minutes · with Scot and Emily McKay

What is it like to live with a spouse who has a mental illness? How can you recognize it, and help, if you suspect your partner is ill? Coping techniques for living with the uncertainty of your partner’s illness, and what it takes to rebuild your life again.

Mimi Tanner

“How to Keep Your Spouse in Love with You Forever”

Audio interview · 13 minutes · with Mimi Tanner

The secrets of becoming the person your spouse can’t live without: why it’s okay to have flaws, how to keep your spouse thinking about you when you’re apart, and how a simple investment in your own life and interests keeps your time together exciting.

Thirteen Ideas That Help Turn A Marriage Crisis Around

Running through the lessons, and only part of what you’ll learn:

  • Personal growth. Why your relationship is crucial to your own future success and your partner’s.

  • The importance of presence. What you are really contributing to the relationship, and new ways to connect with your spouse.

  • The key stages of a relationship. Take the test and find out which stage you and your spouse are at.

  • Perfection is an illusion. Why your marriage should be imperfect, and why change is nothing to fear.

  • The polarity of your roles. What sets men and women apart, and how and why opposites attract.

  • Nature versus nurture. Patterns from your past that explain the way you and your spouse treat each other today.

  • Dealing with anger. How anger works, and the 3 crucial rules for dealing with conflict.

  • Superficial or critical? A measure of how healthy your marriage is right now.

  • Transformational moments. The key factors that create a turning point in a marriage.

  • Caring and self-caring. How to support and nurture your partner, and yourself, through a crisis.

  • Short-term and long-term goals that guide your marriage out of difficulty and give it focus now and in the future.

  • Abundance versus poverty mentality. How your outlook shapes the happiness of your marriage.

  • Family and social support. The power of the people and organizations around you.

Learn From Amy Waterman, Clinical Psychologist Richard Wheeler And Their Guests

Your host is Andrew Rusbatch, co-author of Save My Marriage Today!

Amy Waterman

Amy Waterman

Co-author of Save My Marriage Today!

A professional writer on attraction, dating and, above all, marriage and relationship guidance. In the course Amy teaches the power of recognizing your emotions and releasing them in a positive way, what to do when you are resisting the issues in your marriage (what you resist, persists), and which resources help you understand yourself and your marriage better.

Richard Wheeler

Richard Wheeler

Registered clinical psychologist and psychotherapist

Richard works with adults: people in transition, and people living with stress, anxiety, trauma, depression or problems in their relationships. He teaches how your marriage difficulties are asking you to take action, the importance of gender roles in a relationship, and why you have to own what is going on in your marriage.

Scot and Emily McKay

Scot and Emily McKay

Authors, podcasters and relationship coaches

Their mantra is Deserve What You Want: you have to BE the best partner possible to GET the best possible partner. In their interview with Amy they talk about living with an ex-spouse with a mental illness: how to recognize it and stick to your truth, how to cope with the uncertainty, and what it takes to rebuild your life.

Mimi Tanner

Mimi Tanner

Author and dating writer

Mimi wrote Calling Men, Secrets of Flirting with Men and Man Mistake Eraser!, and her daily email column is read by women all over the world (and the men listening in). In her interview she shares how to keep your spouse in love with you forever.

Everything In The Premium Home Study Course

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  • Five study guides with complete transcripts. Take the lessons away from the screen, open a conversation with your partner using the discussion guides, complete the exercises, and come back to the key points as often as you need.

  • Two audio interviews. “Living with a Partner with a Mental Illness” with Scot and Emily McKay, and “How to Keep Your Spouse in Love with You Forever” with Mimi Tanner.

  • A members’ email consultation. Still unsure how to approach your own problem? Write to the Save My Marriage Today team for advice on your specific situation.

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