Lucy and Chris roll off each other, sighing with pleasure and feeling like a weight has been lifted from their shoulders. They embrace and kiss each other goodnight before falling into contented sleep. Angela rolls away to face the wall as Mack gets into bed. They don’t touch or speak and lay awake in an […]

Maybe you or your spouse are having doubts about your marriage, and have started thinking that the grass may be greener on the other side. In fact, the grass beneath your feet may be looking pretty dead and dry right now. But if it was to be given the right kind of nurturance, do you […]

What is gridlock? It is when you and your spouse encounter a conflict which you just can’t seem to resolve. You are both completely set in your viewpoints, and the same argument seems to come up again and again with neither of you ever budging. These discussions are hurtful and distressing for both of you, […]

If you asked any married person who the most important person in their life is, the large majority of these would name their spouse. No surprises there. So we move on to the next question – who are the other important people in your life? And this is where it gets interesting. Because how this […]

“Why can’t you just be happy?!” “How can you be feeling angry about that?!” “You’re so sad all the time”. When you are experiencing problems in your marriage, you and your spouse are likely to be feeling a lot of different emotions. And the thing is, we can’t help but be affected by how our […]

A common phrase we hear in our consultations with clients who report being ‘unhappy’ in their marriages is “We just don’t have the spark anymore”. A couple may be 2,5, or 10 years down the track, and start to feel like the passion has died, there are too many problems taking hold, and it’s time […]

Marriage is a team sport. Just as you couldn’t win a football match without ever passing to your teammates, you can’t keep a marriage healthy without supporting and communicating with your spouse. As is evident in the many marriage consultations we have with clients, marriage can start to fail when couples stop working WITH each […]

I’m sure you’ve heard time and time again that communication is the key to a successful relationship. After all, you can spend hours communicating with your spouse every day in your marriage. But as much as we are told that it is all about the communication, often we aren’t actually given any clues about how […]

A common message given in today’s society is that when you have children, your children’s needs always have to come first. But the trouble is, marriages often end up falling apart because the time and effort put into meeting the children’s needs often means the emotional needs of each spouse are neglected. Read below to […]

You’ve hit a point in your marriage where the fun and excitement has run dry, and all of your interactions seem to be full of tension or empty air. But don’t let any rough patch in your marriage take away what could be a lifetime of happiness together. You may not see it this way […]