One of my closest friends approached me the other day and asked if we could have a talk. My friend and her husband had been married for just over 8 years, and to all that casually observed them, they seemed to have it all; a nice car, nice house, fashionable furniture and decor, perfectly-behaved pets, and time for […]

I get a lot of submissions, but one in particular stuck in my mind this week and really got me thinking. A woman emailed me who had been married for twelve years and had recently found out about her husband’s affair. The affair had been going on for a number of years, and the exposure […]

Last week I went shopping. It was one of those Saturday morning excursions, where after a leisurely breakfast and a look through the local paper, it seemed appropriate to get out and about and see what is on offer. The change of season heralds a change of outdoor temperatures, so for me when I awake in […]

One of the most common complaints I get from members is complaints about why "Men have to act like men" or why "women are just so damn frustrating". When I read these comments I chuckle, and wonder how much each partner knows about the way each of you are socially conditioned. I need to draw […]

Last weekend I celebrated my anniversary. Looking back on the time I have spent with my partner, I realize how far we have come and how much we have grown in our understanding and love for one another. It was a sobering thought. While thinking of how far I had come in our relationship, I […]

It’s snowing here today. I would have never expected it, as it was blowing a balmy north-west wind last night when I went to bed, and it was unseasonably warm. However, this morning after opening the window, I realized why my dog was scratching at the door, wanting to be let in. Poor little thing […]

When you say the words "..in sickness and in health..", you never quite imagine that you are going to have to remember those words and live them out in perpetuity. This is none more so correct than when depression rears its ugly head in marriage. What is it about depression that elicits such fear or […]

It never ceases to amaze me. I had dinner with an old friend from out of town the other night and we got to chatting about how each other’s relationships are going. It seems I’m not the only one with in-law problems. In fact, when sharing this fact with a few of my other friends, […]

Things went a little less than perfect for my friend after returning home from dinner the other night. After what had been a nice night out with friends he returned home and had an argument over an impulse purchase of a treat for their cat. At first glance it seemed like a really silly thing […]

It’s one of those strange things. You can get two people to look at a picture and you can get two very different descriptions of what is in them. In fact, it is quite amazing how we let our circumstances and moods influence the way we see the world. This was particularly true last weekend […]