The thought of separating from one's spouse can sometimes cause a person to overlook the red flags of a troubled marriage. While divorce has its own consequences, it is equally dangerous to simply ignore the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship. A marriage is supposed to be a safe place where you and your spouse […]
Today I wanted to talk about what you fear. Fear of growing old. Fear of falling out of love. Fear of them falling out of love with you. Fear of not knowing how to fix it. When you meet your fear, it can cause you to do strange things. It can push your loved one […]
In one of our previous posts, we talked about dealing with disillusionment by creating a greater sense of shared purpose in your marriage. Indeed, the “we-ness” factor in your relationship is essential to staying together. Today, let’s get into how you and your spouse can renew your goals as a couple in order to maintain […]
One of the perils that married couples face in the 21st Century is that they don’t have enough time for the important things in life. Whether it’s that deadline at work or having to run errands at home, chances are they’re bouncing from one priority to the next. In the middle of this chaos, it’s […]
We’ve all been there before. There you were, starting a new life with your partner, thinking of the infinite possibilities that lie ahead. Then before you knew it, you became strangers to each other, scratching your heads over how reality shattered the high expectations you had at the beginning. We’ve all felt that incredible rush […]
When I joined an overseas student exchange program many years ago, I learned an important truth. One particular sentence I came across during our cultural orientation stuck with me over the years: “It’s not right, it’s not wrong – it’s just different.” The purpose of our orientation was to prepare us for the inevitable culture […]
Couples often ask us how they can tell if “the spark” in the marriage is still there. The first thing we always reassure people is that their relationship doesn’t have to be a copy of a romantic movie. Not every waking minute has to be filled with romantic moments in real life. In fact, your […]
I get a lot of consultations from members, and it gives me a vital insight into the state of marriages and where couples are encountering sticking points. Feelings, the power of them (and sometimes the lack of them) are powerful things, and when we combine these into the fast pace of a modern marriage, it […]
Anyone who’s been married for a while knows how the passion dies down in a relationship as the years go by. Yet, a lot of couples seem to be at a loss with how to actually deal with this common problem even though they’re well aware of it. Sam, one of our readers from Irvine, […]
If there's one mistake you can’t afford to make in your marriage, it would be complacency. Nothing could be more damaging than turning a blind eye to the danger signs in relationships. Some couples know that they’re engaging in destructive behavior, but feel powerless to put a stop to the vicious cycle. On the other […]